Building Success on the Social Web One Relationship at a Time


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I took a snapshot of this conversation I was having with The JackB.

It struck me as ‘powerful’ at the time and it still does.

The magic of the social web is the heart to heart connections…

Everybody may not like you, but who cares?

You can only get here if you put the real you out there for anyone and everyone to either like or hate you.

Sorry to break it to you, but everybody is not your perfect audience and not everybody is going to like you.

It’s time to get naked and show people what you’ve got, what you’re made of, how you got where you’re at today, why people can trust you with their deepest inner thoughts and why they should open themselves up to you and give you the time of day.

Let people make their own decision whether to hang around or not by being something you are vs. something you’re not. It’s the only foundation that you can build something valuable upon.

If you approach social in this manner, the right people and the right audience will develop over time.

We are asking for each others time, aren’t we?

Don’t waste it on the wrong people.

Time is the most valuable commodity we have, regardless if you’re aware of it, respect it, or not.

What you’re asking people to do is invest a piece of their life in you, and that’s a lot to ask.

Always give your very best, it’s what you’ll be remembered for…

While I’m not 100% certain of everybody’s hopes, dreams and desires in the community, I’m most certain I’m surrounded by determined business owners, owners to be, writers, future book authors, soloperneurs, entrepreneurs and coaches, all looking to better their families future by providing value to the marketplace.

Some shit is going to happen here, that’s why I’m here… I’ve seen it, multiple times… And it means I can expect to see and be part of some more cool shit that’s going down in the neighborhood, because that what happens when people let down their guard down, start to act human on the social web and start building meaningful relationships.

It will also provide validation for you being here. ‘Your time’ is not only possible, but probable if you stay the course and strengthen your relationships.

Your overall experience and results on the social web will be a direct result of the relationships you established in the process.

Be careful, you just might start to care…

From here, you start to care and caring often translates to passion and when you put a community of smart, caring passionate people together all in one ‘thought space’ on the social web, something good is bound to happen.

Sometimes that’s all a fellow-entrepreneur needs to continue his/her quest to knock down walls, break down barriers to long fought for goals.

That little dose of inspiration and the ability to share in each others small victories – can be like taking a shot of adrenaline and bring everything back into proper perspective…

Be grateful, be thankful, be gracious, be humble… AND WIN!

All of the businesses you see around you, those who are absolutely killing it on the social web are all friends. Hint: Close Friends.

If you’re going to be successful in blogging, you’re going to need to come out from behind the avatar and start building genuine connections.

If you will do that and start reaching out to people who you find interesting and would like to get to know better, your blogging results will take a serious turn for the better.

There’s something about investing yourself fully into the exercise. People are either going to feel you, or not.

If you let it all hang out with the work you do online, it’s sure come back to you in spades.

What you do with your friendships and connections is up to you; but regardless, you’ll be in a postion to move people, places and things when you need your friends the most.

Every valuable business you see born out of the social web era was built one relationship at a time.

There are no shortcuts to achieving this, it’s a lifetime commitment.

That’s what people give who are kicking social in the butt; their entire being, and nothing less.

That. Is. All.

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  • Bill Dorman

    Ok, click on this link and you can see me naked…………..

    You are preaching to the choir here, sir. I wouldn’t be where I am today without the relationships and now, social is just an extension of that. I will go out of my way to meet my social friends in real life, and yes, they are as real as real can be.

    Take care of the relationships first and everything else will fall into place.

    • Jayme Soulati

      Hah. Figures Dorman would pick up on being naked on a nude beach…wait, that wasn’t me!

      • Mark Harai

        One track mind, that Dorman!!

    • Mark Harai

      “After all, the most important place a friend impacts your life is in your heart and in your mind.”

      That doesn’t take a face to face meeting to accomplish, Bill… I’m sure you can attest to this.

      Relationships on the social web are real as you make them. Period.

      Please, keep your clothes on! Besides, you can probably start charging for naked pics; you’re kind of a ladies man :P

      Appreciate you sir!

  • Jayme Soulati

    OMGosh; it’s time to get naked? Nope; ain’t gonna happen, but I’ll bare my soul to you and you’ve already seen it. I share my inner core every now and again; I tweet and blog like I talk with heart.

    Twitter changed my life; literally. I was living in a dank basement working alone in a new city I hated and new I wasn’t going to make it. I was so very unhappy, and then Twitter happened in 2009.

    The FRIENDS I made then are true FRIENDS today. Friends like you who care back. XO

    • Mark Harai

      It’s cool to hook up with people you’re drawn to… There’s just a place of caring and/or concern for some folks, almost instantly.

      We’re right where were suppose to be Jayme, connecting with precisely the people we’re suppose to be hooking up with.

      I believe there’s a reason for all things that happen in and around our lives… You just have to put your sensors on and let these relationships take shape as you build them.

      I’m so happy to be sharing in this journey with you, at this time.

      Something brilliant is going to happen and I’m excited about it!

      Cheers miss!

  • Billy Delaney

    That is the rub of it all for me.
    What do I want to to reveal?
    I’ve watched the social space for a while now. I think I will be just me. There is a lot to share and show and tell. Been around. I hold strong opinons about most things. Thanks Mark. I’m gonna let it roll then. I can always tell them you told me to do so….:) Billy

    • Mark Harai

      Keep going Billy!

      You haven’t caught momentum yet… You’ve been tinkering here and there, taking care of some health issues; but your work has not flowed like it’s going to.

      You have build a little momentum, slowly but surely and the right people/ customers/ friends will follow.

      Thanks so much for the shout sir, I appreciate you : )

      • Billy Delaney

        Thanks Mark. Your right, of course, and I am happy with that for now. I actually have watched and learned. Yes, I have plan of activity and it has begun. So cheers to you and thanks.

  • Josh

    Good things happen when we open ourselves up.

    • Mark Harai

      That’s what fascinates me about your writing… There’s layers – deep layers that keep getting pulled back through your journey and your writings.

      I find myself checking each blog post to see if I can discover more clues to this complex figure – :o

      Cheers Josh!

  • Jens P. Berget

    I have read so many comments from both you and @TheJoshuaWilner:disqus and even though I haven’t always replied to them, I’ve read them and felt like I was part of the conversation :)

    That’s the things about the social web, we’re building the relationships and we can be part of conversations when we feel like it, and we can watch when we feel like it. We’re still there.

    When I started out online, I was thinking about talking to groups of people, and not one person at a time, but now it’s the opposite. I believe that the real power of the social web is building one relationship at a time, and that’s what we do offline as well.

    - Jens

    • Mark Harai

      Geesh, I’m still stuck with you on the beach with no water and a big beard… did you shave that thing off yet?

      • Jens P. Berget

        I’m nowhere close to the beach. The weather is cold and windy, and I’m stuck in the living room close to the fireplace. And my big beard is… gone :)

        • Mark Harai

          That actually sounds very inviting… Brings back lot’s of memories.

          Hope you’re enjoying your evening, Jens ; )

          • Jens P. Berget

            Lot’s of memories for me too :) I’m enjoying my evening with my kids. I’m not sure if I’ve told you that I’ve got another kid too? His name is Kristian and he’s 5 weeks old :)

          • Mark Harai

            Oh my! Is that four kids now, Jens? You’re only 3 behind me : )

            If you don’t move to a warmer climate, I think you just may end up with more kids :o

            Congratulations Jens! LOVE THAT BOY : )

          • Jens P. Berget

            It’s only 3, but I’m still young :)

            Thank you.

  • Craig McBreen

    Hi Mark,

    I’ve been blogging for exactly one year and in than span of time I’ve gone through several iterations and have started to build a new business model. Why? mainly because of the quality people I’ve met. The meetings, the Skype calls, etc. It really has changed my life for the better.

    I agree with Jens on the one person at a time model. Works for me as well :)

    • Mark Harai

      Craig, you’ve done some amazing work in just one year, sir. I can’t imagine you not having a huge impact on the industry and peoples lives.

      And I know you certainly understand the value of relationships on the social web…

      It takes quality creators, connecting and building relationships with quality practitioners, who then spread the word to the community about quality people.

      You can count on me to support your work, you rock n’ roll!

      Thanks for stopping in, I appreciate it very much : )

      • Craig McBreen

        You are too kind, Sir, but thanks and great to know you! :)

  • Tim Bonner

    Hey Mark

    When I first started my blog, giving away even a piece of me seemed a little bit alien. Gradually though I’ve opened up and got to know many more people that way.

    My online buddies keep me company during the day. I only have my 2-year-old daughter to chat to otherwise. She’s learnt some really important words though over the past couple of weeks, ‘No’ and ‘Mine’ being her favourites at the moment!

    It would be great to meet everyone offline one day. I’m also getting to know people one by one as I go along.

    • Mark Harai

      Good Morning, Tim!

      I just left you over on Google+ – what a trip, eh? LOL!

      How many kids do you have? Funny how ‘no’ and ‘mine’ are usually the first words for baby siblings!

      Why they can’t just share and get along is beyond me.

      We’re pretty lucky to be alive and experiencing the things we do in life these days… All this social stuff is relatively new.

      It’s pretty cool to be able to connect with people all over the world and strike up a friendship. That’s huge advancement anyway you look at.

      It will be interesting to see where all of this goes, both in our personal and professional lives.

      Strap on your seat belts, we’re going for a ride!

      Cheers, bro!

      • Tim Bonner

        I know, you’re getting around a bit now!

        I have 2 kids, Mark. George, who is 4 and Maebh, who is 2. Everyone always asks about Maebh as it’s an unusual spelling. It’s the original Irish spelling of Maeve, ie rhymes with Dave. The bh sounds like a v.

        My wife is Irish and is a native speaker, or was when she was a bit younger! So as we went for a very English name with George, we went for Irish with Maebh.

        It will definitely be interesting to see where this all ends up. I’m looking forward to the ride!

        • Mark Harai

          What a cool name, Maebh… I never would have known that his name would rhyme with Dave, that’s for sure!

          Its sounds like you have a wonderful foundation of life to build upon, Tim.

          I also hear it’s best not to anger Irish women… :o

          The journey in life is the best part of all this. Life is too short not enjoy good fiends along the way.

          I look forward to sharing it with you, Tim…

          Cheers sir!

  • Jeevan Jacob John

    That is all?

    You have got too much of Dorman in you, Mark (Dormanism!) :D

    But, hey I agree ;) It’s all about making those relationships (formality doesn’t matter much, get real, get personal!).

    Because in the end, that’s all that matters (another thing to remember is that it’s not the number that matter, but the quality of the relationships, right Mark?

    • Mark Harai

      LOL, yes, I admit it – that @twitter-34985693:disqus guy has some kind of influence over me : )

      That’s the thing Jeevan, you really can’t play the numbers game per se’ when you’re out on the social web building relationships.

      There are only so many quality relationships you can maintain at one time.

      For me Jeevan, I take quality over quantity any day of the week. Those who play the numbers just have not experienced the magic of the social web.

      People in strong relationship are the foundation of every success on the social web today.

      If you’re not connected to capable people and building strong relationships with same, you’re chances of success on the web is very improbable.

      You’re always very thoughtful, everywhere I see you Jeevan… I appreciate your work, sir!

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