Blogging Insights: Write Like You Talk; If You Can Talk That Is…


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Some of the best advice I gained early on in my blogging experiment was to ‘write like I talk’.

This was signficant for me, as I’m not a professional writer. I wasn’t so sure of myself when it came to proper grammar, or sentence structuring.

I was stuck before I even got started.

This point right here is where many people get stuck. They don’t get pass this intersection right here; maybe it’s’ too scary, or they just don’t feel like they can gain the necessary skills that are required to become a successful blogger or writer.

Well you can talk, can’t you?

Once my focus moved from, “how do I properly write sentences that won’t make me look like I’m five,” to, “write like I talk,” writing became a whole lot easier for me.

I may not be the best writer, but I know how to talk with the best of them… And when I stared to write like I talked, it became easy to throw down some paragraphs.

Breaking The Rules

For instance, I found that long structured paragraphs, (which were preferred by my writing instructor in school) are unnatural, and don’t flow like normal converstations do. When I run across this writing style, I’m gone in about 10 seconds.

When you start to write what you want to say, your sentences will be shorter, to the point and more personalized.

Your written words will reach out and grab the attention of your readers because your speaking directly to them, instead of writing carefully crafted words at them.

It’s All in the Packaging

When you wrap your content with your personality, it’s the only place on web where people can get the total customer experience (product/ service/ and you) that you serve up to the marketplace.

This is good for business longevity, brand recognition, and expanding your market/ product lines, or both if you so desire.

People Buy You

This is hugely important for you to understand, because while quality content/ products/ services will always be an important factor in attracting customers to your business; your personality is just as important…

And here’s why; people do business with people they like, and if you can’t connect with people quickly and effectively on the social web, they’ll move on to the next professional who can effectively connect with – and move them.

The more you can interject your personality into your content, the better response and overall results you will acheive.

The best way I’ve found to do that is to write like I talk.

How about you, do you write like you talk?

For good measure, here is an article from Men with Pens entitled: “Why You Should Never Write Like You Talk.” There were some good points in it that I thought would add to the conversation… (I even added to the end of my title because of it.)

I look forward to hearing from you!

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Category : Blog &Blogging

  • The JackB

    I think of blogs as being quite different from the essays we used to write in our school days.

    If the goal here is to start a conversation between people it makes perfect sense to me to write like we talk.

    • Mark Harai

      Well yah… you definitely write like you talk… (I have video clips to prove it : )

      I wrote this for those folks who haven’t figured that out yet…

      Writing for some of us is scary in the beginning… Little things like this can make all the difference in the world…

      I think you should try to sing one of your blog posts to us – just to stay challenged :o

      It would definitely be a ‘rocker tune’ :-/

      • The JackB

        I just might do it one day- protect your ears when it happens. ;)

      • Mark Harai

        Dang, I wanted to play the drums!

    • Mark Harai

      BTW, I read a lot of blogs that are, well, boring… No voice attached to the content, you know what I mean?

  • John Falchetto

    Great post Mark,
    The only people who don’t want you to write like you talk are incompetent copywriters who feel threatened in their jobs.

    A good copywriter will find a way to make her writing feel like conversation, yes people like RedHeadwriting do this beautifully.

    Yes, you should write like you talk on your blog. This isn’t a PhD thesis or some kind of medical journal people, if you want people to learn more about you, eventually trust you (or dislike you) then you need to write like you talk.

    Blogs are about really developing our OWN voice not some kind of constipated version of who we are.

    Have a great weekend Mark :)

    • Mark Harai

      Constipated sounds very uncomfortable!

      And now after you’ve written it, and me having said it, John; when you visit a blog with all words and no personality, it’s actually uncomfortable.

      It’s good to have an idea in you mind of how you want to make people feel when they visit your place.

      Warm and inviting is always good – - It takes personality to make that happen most effectively.

      My advice would be; always write from this position : )

      Cheers sir!

  • samarowais

    I always thought ‘Write Like You Talk’ advice was crap but was too scared to say it out loud for a long time.

    In my case, it’s the opposite. I write better than I talk – something that became very apparent after I recorded an audio interview and ended up spending 2 hours editing myself.
    So for me, it’s always made sense to write like I want to talk!

    • Mark Harai

      That is so awesome and coming from a completely different direction.

      It just goes to show that everybody’s experience and skill levels are different.

      I think it can lead to the same place for each individual who invests the time to discover their deeper selves through writing & blogging and be willing to share a piece of themselves with others;

      The best work of their lives…

      Thank you so much for sharing some of your experience and wisdom here @samarowais:disqus : )

    • Life, for instance

      Well said Samarowais: “it’s always made sense to write like I WANT to talk!” :-)

  • Bill Dorman

    Hmmmm, maybe too much like I talk at times; but it’s all me.English was never a favorite subject of mine and I did not like getting bogged down in structure or syntax. However, like you, I can talk and should be able to put ‘that structure’ down on paper, right?

    I do like to write and I do like to tell a story; hopefully my personality comes through in my writings. Of course, your style, my style, it won’t resonate with everybody and it shouldn’t. But if it appeals to your audience and you can grow your audience from there then that is a good thing, right?

    You do a great job of ‘personable’ writing. It is a style that will suit many.

    Thanks for sharing this post.

    • Mark Harai

      Back at you Bill… Your content has Dorman seasoning throughout… It’s a funny, touching, insightful and even serious… How do you that?

      Thank you Bill, I appreciate you : )

  • Hajra

    I studied literature in college and they told me words have magical power in them; but the wand is in our hands. Once we sound all bookish about it, then the power to reach the readers thoughts does become tougher.

    I think writing not like talking will only work when we are maybe writing a story or something way formal. Other than that, blogging or writing should be like we talk. The personal touch always works.

    • Mark Harai

      Hi Hajra, thanks so much for popping in and sharing a piece of your mind with us : )

      Hope you’e having an awesome weekend!

  • Life, for instance

    Hi Mark! While I agree you should write like you talk, I’d add that you want to be a good “talker” then! Yes, your voice is important, but I think it comes over time, probably not immediately. I have to edit out some of my “relaxed” phrasing when I write. I want to be me, but I want to be the best me I can be. Maybe, like samarowais I write better than I talk! Writing is an art form. While I’m with you that your personality is important, I’m not so sure you want to be completely un-edited. I admire good writing when I see it and appreciate it. The voice still comes through. It just comes through articulately.

    • Mark Harai

      Yes Lori – agreed… You need to be articulate, in both the written and spoken word, to gain credibility in the marketplace.

      Thanks so much for adding to the conversation Lori, I appreciate it very much miss : )

  • Soulati

    Is writing like you talk the same as writing like you think? ;-)

    • Mark Harai

      Actually I would say yes… When I think, I think to myself like I talk… Make sense??

      I don’t think like my English teachers taught me how to write, that’s for sure ;o

  • Ralph Dopping

    I sure do. That’a probably why so many people are confused when they read my stuff. :-)

    • Mark Harai

      Lol! We’ll that’s been covered in the comments sir : )

      Make sure you can talk the talk before you write like you talk – haha!

      Well that’s just going to confuse folks!

      • Ralph Dopping

        Right. Like the old adage; Garbage in. Garbage out. ;-)

  • Jens P. Berget

    Hi Mark,

    It took me a while to understand the importance of being you and writing like you talk, and it might be to the fact that I’m Norwegian and writing in English. I was so focused on writing “perfect” English, but now, I am breaking the rules all the time – because that’s who I am :)

    • Mark Harai

      I look forward to seeing you, hearing from you and engaging with you Jens.

      You’re doing something right : )

      Keep up the great body of work you’re establishing and make sure the social web gets a good dose of Jens Berget’s social business & marketing insights everyday…

      Cheers mate!

      • Jens P. Berget

        I’ll do my best :)

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